When leaders and communities get divorced
A series of reflections on the tragedy of separation that pastors, missionaries, staff, and their ministries experience when they have to part ways. While it speaks to any kind of separation, the series focuses on those times when the individual must leave because of their own bad choices…whatever those may have been. Admonition, comfort, and, most of all, perspective from one who’s been there.
#Metoo versus the Disposable Celebrity? How do we navigate the rights of the accuser to be heard and the rights of the accused to due process? What does Christianity say to victims and perpetrators of evil, about redemption, restoration, reconciliation? How does the Church subvert the culture of discarded leaders?
What do people who’ve wrecked their lives really need from the Church? How can the Church really help? Some things are easily identified—financial help, counseling, family support. The single most important thing, however, may not be so obvious, but without this thing, it’s almost impossible for a disgraced person to recover a livable life.
When leaders make mistakes and their lives fall apart, who is charged with the task of walking with them, learning their story, and speaking on their behalf? Most broken leaders must represent themselves. And since “only a fool represents himself,” the end is predictable and excessively tragic. Where are the advocates?
How do you deal with the guilt of having hurt others? How do you go forward in life with that heavy weight sitting on your conscience? What can be done…what can’t? Does the gospel have anything to say to the person who feels crushing shame for pain they’ve caused in their past?
How do you know that someone has really repented? How do you know that someone has truly forgiven you? Which is supposed to happen first? What’s supposed to happen after? The Saintly Mule considers the meaning of repentance and forgiveness, what they really look like, and what it means to for victims and perpetrators to move toward reconciliation.
Are you standing on the edge? Are you close to an addictive, depressive, or obsessive choice destroying your life? Don’t feel like you can stop it? St. Asinus offers a somber warning and a little advice to those who can hear the bullet coming.
Too hurt to move; too hurt to stay. How do we respond when trapped in a situation we cannot control? What choice remains when we feel like we have no choice? The Holy Ass reflects on St. Peter’s unusual invitation to those trapped in grisly situations – Lean into it!
What happens to the spouse of the church leader who blows everything up? They suffer all the consequences but get little of the attention. What are they to do? Continuing his homily from I Peter 2-3, the Saintly Mule probes the options available to the forgotten spouse—Should they Stay or Go?
Do you want to know a bit more of St. Asinus’ before listening to what he has to say? What makes him want to talk about this stuff? Listen to this sermon wherein he publicly tells the story of his own asininity for the first time. Then drop him a line if you have questions.